Do You And Your Partner Want To Achieve A More Harmonious Relationship?
Are you tired of arguing in circles and struggling to communicate what you want?
Has infidelity or betrayal put a question mark on your relationship’s future?
Deep down, does it feel like your goals and values just aren’t aligned?
Perhaps there was a time when it seemed like you and your significant other could do no wrong—you were connected, thriving, and madly in love. Over time, however, your differences have become clearer, small disagreements have added up, and you no longer feel like you’re on the same page.
Sometimes it might seem like you’re just two ships passing in the night, more like roommates than spouses or partners. You find yourselves doom-scrolling in bed instead of trying to engage. As a result, maybe you’re thinking of seeing a couples therapist.
You Might Feel Like You’re Just Not On The Same Page Anymore
Whether you’re dealing with financial stress, parenting issues, or infidelity, you and your spouse may have vastly different ways of trying to solve conflict. Perhaps one of you wants to talk through your disagreements while the other prefers to shut down and avoid confrontation altogether. Your relationship may begin to feel like a cat-and-mouse game that veers back and forth between arguing and giving each other the silent treatment.
On the other hand, maybe your relationship isn’t fraught with conflict—you’re engaged, happily married, or maintaining a stable long-term relationship. Yet you recognize that there’s a long road ahead, and you want to nip any potential problems in the bud.
Wherever your relationship or marriage stands today, we encourage you to connect with us. Here at Abundant Life Institute, we are passionate about providing therapy for couples who want to deepen their intimacy, improve their communication, and enjoy a more harmonious union. We’d love to do the same for you!
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No Relationship Is Perfect
Despite what you see on Instagram, every relationship has its shortcomings. Many couples appear happy on the surface, but behind closed doors, they’re struggling with miscommunication, betrayal, and broken trust.
All too often, when couples fall into a funk, they tell themselves that there’s no way to crawl out. They accept that their relationship is broken and give up trying to make it better, because they’ve never learned to do things differently. They fall back on what’s familiar, repeating the same behaviors they saw in their parents or in past partners—no matter how unhealthy those behaviors may be.
It takes intentionality to go against what was modeled for you. Generational patterns are difficult to break on your own, which is why seeking couples therapy is so essential.
In The Digital Age, Meaningful Connections Are Harder Than Ever To Find
Online dating reduces love to a matter of swipes. Social media creates a minefield where love is tough to find and betrayal is as easy as the click of a button. Our society teaches us to view relationships as disposable—as soon as things hit a rough patch, you’re supposed to jump ship and start looking for other options.
Yet there’s something to be said for sticking it out and persevering out of love for another person. Relationships are incredibly complex because people are complex. Therapy can help you untangle the complexities of your own marriage and use that knowledge to create a stronger, more mature connection.
Therapy Can Empower Couples To Heal, Trust, And Love Again
One of the first things we like to do with couples is take a trip a down memory lane. We like to revisit the moment they first fell in love and explore what made them feel a spark. By focusing on the highlights of their relationship, we create a strong foundation for addressing areas of growth and creating a plan for the rest of therapy.
Our therapists work with couples from all walks of life—married, engaged, or in long-term relationships—and we specialize in serving couples in interracial, intercultural, and interfaith relationships. We provide both traditional couples counseling sessions as well as intensive options for clients who want to do their healing work in an accelerated format.
Whether you’re struggling with financial issues, recovering from infidelity, dealing with parenting stress, or trying to solve communication problems, we believe that couples counseling can help.
What To Expect In Couples Counseling Sessions
How we approach therapy varies from couple to couple, as we always customize the process to suit the needs of our clients. In general, we’ll meet with you and your partner together for the first session so that we can get a feel for your relationship and its history. If needed, we may have individual breakout sessions with each of you separately so that we can talk about your struggles on a more in-depth level, but the majority of counseling will involve both of you together.
Many of our therapists use the Prepare-and-Enrich curriculum, while others prefer the Gottman Method. Both are evidence-based and include a comprehensive assessment of your relationship.
The Prepare-and-Enrich approach assesses your relationship’s strengths as well as its challenges, helping you and your partner prioritize your most urgent concerns. The Gottman Method is a personalized approach that identifies the four biggest issues in relationships—stonewalling, defensiveness, contempt, and criticism—and gives you real-life strategies for addressing these problems.
With new communication tools and new ways of relating to each other, your marriage can be even better than it was before. You can learn to trust, love, and connect with your spouse again, breathing new life into your relationship.
You May Have Some Questions About Couples Therapy…
What if couples therapy costs too much?
Seeking counseling can save you the emotional and financial burden of divorcing or spending more money trying to repair your marriage later on. It’s an investment, but it’s worthwhile. The skills you learn can benefit you and your partner for the rest of your lives, setting you up for a happy marriage and a happy future.
What if my spouse doesn’t want to go to counseling?
If your spouse doesn’t want to come with you, you can still come and receive individual therapy. This will be a great opportunity to work on your own areas of growth in the relationship. Over time, if your partner witnesses a change in you, they may be more motivated to work on themselves.
At the very least, we encourage you to tell your partner that they don’t have to commit right away. They’re welcome to come for a session and then decide if couples therapy is something they want to pursue long-term.
What if I don’t agree with my therapist’s approach?
If you ultimately decide that you want to switch therapists, you are more than welcome to do so, as we have multiple couples counselors on staff and they all bring different approaches. That said, our therapists are neutral and unbiased in our approach to marriage therapy. We’ll never take sides or single out one person, since we know that it takes two to tango. We’ll give both of you a space to feel seen, heard, respected, and understood.
Invest In Your Marriage And Reap The Benefits For Years To Come
You and your partner don’t have to keep arguing in circles, and you don’t have to keep settling for less in your relationship. With the power of couples therapy, you can bring happiness and harmony back into your marriage. To get started, schedule a free, 15-minute phone consultation by using our contact page or calling us at (770) 246-2822.
